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Regaining Yourself After Motherhood: A Journey of Rediscovery

How to Regain Yourself After Motherhood

Regaining Yourself After Motherhood: A Journey of Rediscovery

Motherhood is a beautiful and transformative experience. It fills your life with love, laughter, and a strong sense of security like no other. But let’s be honest, it can take it all too. The constant demands of little people can make you feel like you’ve lost a part of yourself – your hobbies, your interests, the person you were before you became a mother.


This feeling of loss is incredibly common, but remember, you are not lost. You just turn around. Returning to motherhood is not a cancellation of this wonderful new activity; It’s about weaving into the tapestry of who you are. It’s about rediscovering your passions and reclaiming space for yourself, all while being the incredible mama your child needs.

How to start the journey

Here’s how you can get started on this journey of discovery:

1. Acknowledge your feelings

Give yourself permission to grieve. It’s okay to feel lost, frustrated, even angry at times. Motherhood brings with it a flurry of emotions, and ignoring them won’t make them go away. Give yourself permission to grieve the version of yourself that existed before motherhood. Talk to your partner, a trusted friend, or a therapist. Journaling can also be a great way to process your emotions.

2. Redefine your expectations

Embrace the “new normal.” Let go of the idea that you can just “fit” your old life around your new responsibilities. Being a mother requires flexibility and adjustment. Embrace the “new normal” instead. What is motherhood like for you? What routines and activities can you adjust for your child?

3. Make time for yourself (even if it’s just a few minutes)

This may sound like a luxury, but it is absolutely essential. Even small pockets of “me time” can make a big difference. Start with 15 minutes a day – read a chapter of a book, take a shower, or go for a walk. As your child grows, you can gradually increase this time. Remember, a happy, contented mom is a good mom to her baby.

4. Reconnect with your passions: What used to make you happy?

Think back to your life before you became a mother. What activities brought you joy and satisfaction? Was it painting, making music, volunteering for something that mattered to you? Even if you can’t commit big time, find ways to rekindle these passions. Take an online class, join a virtual book club, or find a mom and mom activity that relates to your interests.

5. Set goals (big or small) and celebrate your accomplishments

Recovery is a journey, not a destination. Set small, achievable goals related to your recycling. Make it a goal to read a book every month, a weekend getaway with your partner, or finally master that yoga pose you’ve been eyeing. Celebrate your accomplishments no matter how small or small.

6. Embrace the power of “no.”

Motherhood brings pressure to do almost everything. Don’t be afraid to say “no” to other commitments that leave you feeling overwhelmed and exhausted. Prioritize your well-being and activities that feed your soul.

7. Plant a support system

Building a strong support system is important for every parent. It could be your spouse, your family, your friends, your babysitting co-worker, or even a local mommy group. Trust this village for help and support. Don’t be afraid to ask yourself time and reclaim yourself.

8. Remember that you are not just a mother

embrace your multifaceted personality. Motherhood is a big part of who you are, but it doesn’t completely define you. You are still a partner, a friend, a daughter, a creative soul. Train these other parts of yourself. This will make you look good and satisfied, and in the end, it will also benefit your baby.

9. Take care of yourself: Train your body and mind

Taking care of yourself isn’t selfish, it’s important. Get enough sleep (even during stolen time), eat healthy foods and exercise when you can. Prioritize activities that reduce stress and encourage relaxation, whether it’s meditation, time in nature, or a massage.

10. Celebrate the journey

After motherhood, rediscovering yourself is a lifelong process. There will be setbacks and times when you will feel lost again. But remember, the journey itself is worth it. Embrace the growth and change that motherhood brings. You become a stronger, more resilient self, and that’s something.

Additional Common Questions

Q. How long does it take to recover from motherhood?

A. There is no one-size-fits-all answer to this question. It depends on a variety of factors, including your individual personality, the number of children you have, and your support system. Some women start to feel like themselves again within a few months, while others take a year or more.

Q. What if I feel guilty about taking time for myself?

A. It’s natural to feel guilty about taking time for yourself, especially when you learn to put your children’s needs first. But remember, taking care of yourself is not selfish. It is important for your well-being and will ultimately make you a better parent.

Q. How can I make time for myself when I am so busy?

A. Even small pockets of time can make a big difference. Start by scheduling yourself small breaks throughout the day, even if it’s just 15 minutes. You can use this time to read, take a bath, or just relax and unwind.


Recovery after motherhood is a journey, not a destination. Be patient with yourself, celebrate your small victories, and don’t be afraid to ask for help. You are not alone in this. By taking care of yourself, you will be better prepared to take care of your children and create a fulfilling life for you and your family.

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